Toddler Sleep

Toddler Sleep

Toddler Sleep

Toddler Sleep can be an elusive concept to most parents.  It certainly is in our household.  And is often one of our biggest struggles as parents.  How do we get our toddlers to sleep?!  And that’s not the only question we ask ourselves.  Here are a few questions related to toddler sleep that we as parents ask ourselves on a daily basis;

How do I get my toddler to self settle?
What is a good bed time?
What is a good bedtime routine?
Why won’t my toddler sleep in his own bed/cot?
Why doesn’t my toddler sleep through the night?
When should I drop my toddler’s daytime nap?
When will my toddler learn to put himself to sleep?
Is my toddler getting enough sleep?
Is my toddler overtired?

Sound familiar?  The questions relating to toddler sleep are endless!

Sleep has never been one of my son’s strengths.  He is now almost two and my husband and I are faced with a toddler sleep phase that we are unsure of.

My son wakes at about 7am most days.  He naps from 11:30 until 1:30pm and falls asleep fairly quickly.  We have a consistent bedtime routine and take him to bed at 8:30pm, but it takes about 60-90 mins for him to fall asleep.  He just does not seem tired.

Shall we move bedtime later so that we take him to bed when he’s ready to sleep?  He is getting 11-12 hours sleep in 24 hours.  Which for my son seems enough sleep.  He’s not at all tired and grumpy throughout the day.

Recently I posted a question on a mum’s social media group asking for mum’s of toddlers to post their toddler’s sleep pattern.  I just wanted to see if there were other toddlers staying up until 9:30pm.  I got over thirty responses.  None of which made me feel any better.  In fact, most of them made me feel like I was doing a bad job.

‘Sounds like your son is overtired.  He needs an earlier bedtime.’
‘You need to shorten his nap time.’
‘Try cutting out his nap time.’
‘You need a sleep consultant.’
‘My toddler sleeps from 6:30pm until 7:30am every night.’
‘You need to be more active in the afternoons so that he’s tired enough to sleep.’
‘Have you tried cutting out dairy.’
‘You need to cut out screen time.’

Lesson of the day – don’t ask for help on social media.  Everyone has an opinion on what you should be doing.

Since reflecting on the whole issue, I have come to the following conclusion;

I don’t want to manipulate my son’s sleep patterns.  I will not be changing his daytime nap.  He still needs a nap during  the day so I will continue to let him nap for as long or as short a time as he needs.  He’s really grumpy when I wake him up from his naps.  Why would I do that to him or myself?!

It would be lovely if he went to bed at 7:30pm but we are clearly not ready for that early of a bedtime yet.  So we will try for a later bedtime and see what time he goes to sleep.  If we take him to bed at 8:30pm and we spend an hour and 15 minutes trying to settle him to sleep but he doesn’t sleep until 9:45pm.  Then we could try a 9:15pm bedtime.  If he falls to sleep at 9:45pm then we’ve saved ourselves 45 minutes of desperate settling to sleep time.  Instead we can relax together as a family.  Work smarter, not harder, right?!

What troubles do you have with your toddler sleep? Where did you go for help?  What conclusion did you come up with?

The Biggest Lesson for a New Mum

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I am a mum of a toddler and currently pregnant with my second.  Over the last few weeks I’ve spent a lot of time considering what I’ve leant about being a mum.  I’ve thought long and hard about what I intend to do the same and what I would like to change this time round.  Here’s what I think is the biggest lesson for a new mum;

Do what feels right and don’t listen to anyone else.

Over the last two years I have spent hours and hours reading articles, blogs, social media posts etc about how to be a mum and how to get my son to eat, sleep, move, interact and behave in the ways that society deems appropriate.  In hindsight… bugger it all!  What a waste of time.

What I have come to realise is that there is a very strong sense of a Mother’s intuition, especially when our babies are little.  And our intuition is what we need to listen to.  Not sleep consultants, neighbours, relatives or even family and friends.  Not bloggers, baby experts or authors of books.  We need to listen to ourselves!  Listen to what we feel is right.

For me, I intend to spend more time co-sleeping this time.  With my son I spent endless nights being woken every hour to resettle him to sleep in his own cot.  It resulted in us both having very little restful sleep and all because I thought him sleeping in his own cot was the right thing to do because that’s what society says.  But my Mother’s intuition tells me how special it is to sleep with my baby.  How we both sleep more soundly and both get the sleep we need.  Of course providing that there are no risk factors that could make co-sleeping dangerous.

I also intend to be more relaxed with my routines.  I have spent countless days and nights trying to stick to a strict routine with food and sleep.  It has been hard work and overall I haven’t seen any positive results.  I just find myself worn out making everything else harder.  This time, I’m going to be more relaxed.  If I don’t feel up to giving my baby a bath, a massage, a story, a feed, a song and then walking in and out of the room 12 million times before they eventually fall to sleep, then I won’t.  Instead I will cuddle up with them on the couch or in bed and just relax.

My final big lesson is to accept that there are no break times.  Motherhood really is a 24/7 job.  My husband and I have spent countless nap times and evenings where we have been desperate to get our son to sleep so that we can just relax and have a break from parenthood.  But the truth is, having a baby is extending your family.  There are no breaks.  If your baby is in bed and you get a couple of hours to yourself, great!  But if not, try not to stress about it.  This is your new life.  And the quicker you accept that the better.  It’s taken me 2 years to accept that fact, and now that I finally have my evenings are more relaxed, with my son present and very much awake!

Overall, it’s what we see and hear around us that makes us question ourselves as parents and makes us do things that we may not otherwise do.  We need to take everything lightly and trust ourselves more.  The biggest lesson for a new mum is to do what feels right and not to listen to anyone else.  Motherhood will be so much more relaxed that way.  These early years are short and they pass by so quickly.  So why spend so much time stressing about trying to make our children do what society tells us to.  The difficult phases will pass and somehow, we will find a way to manage each one as we are faced with them.

Good luck new mum.  x

What do you think is the biggest lesson for a new mum?

 

The Liebster Award

liebster awardI can not tell you how truly honoured I am to be nominated for the Liebster Award.  A sincere thank you to the Paranoid Working Parent for voting for me.

The Liebster Award is given from one blogger to another to find out more about new blogs and the people behind them.


I have never heard of such awards but think it is a great way to ‘meet’ new bloggers and for other bloggers to get to know a little more about me.  So here goes…

My acceptance

As part of my acceptance of this distinguished award I hereby provide answers to the Paranoid Working Parent’s questions;

1. What did you last laugh at?
This morning watching my 17 month old son on the balance beam at our Tumbleweed Gymnastics session.  Watching his little feet tackle the obstacle in his innocent and carefree way.

2. What did you last cry at?
The Green Mile movie.  Has me in floods of snot and tears overtime!

3. Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?
Mummy of two.  Maybe returned to work as a teacher two days a week and then being a SAHM 3 days a week.  Would be fabulous if my blog is still going then and I’m making money from it.

4. What inspired you to start blogging?
Other bloggers.  I read a lot of blog posts whilst I was pregnant and as a new mum.  I thought I had things that I wanted to write about so though ‘why not?’

5. What is your favourite music genre?
Do I have to pick just one?  Classical, Rock, Pop, Indie.  I like variety.

6. Where would be your ideal holiday destination?
Bora Bora.  We couldn’t afford it for our Honeymoon but I’m holding out for our 20th wedding anniversary.

7. Crisps, chocolate, or neither?
Chocolate!!!

8. What was the last gift you received?
A set of crochet hooks from one of my best friends.

9. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
How much sleep I needed to feel rested and energised.

10. Where do you do the majority of your blogging?
In our home office.

11. What is your favourite book genre?
Autobiographies.  I love reading about peoples lives and the experiences they’ve had.  Especially those that lived in a different time or culture.

 


Random Facts About Me

1.  Since being pregnant the smell of rice crackers makes me feel instantly nauseous.  Even now 17 months later.
2.  I LOVE P!nk. Every song and every album. She is my idol.
3.  I can’t dive into water. I either belly flop or fall in vertically. And never with so much as an ounce of grace.
4.  I have 101 ambitions/hobbies but never the time, energy or money to do any of them.
5.  I have two cats and two fish. I would love to add a dog and chickens to my menagerie.
6.  I was born in the West Midlands in the UK, but now love in Auckland, New Zealand.
7.  I used the play the trumpet.
8.  I used to be in the Army Cadets.  I can shoot a variety of weapons!
9.  I am scared whenever I swim in the sea.
10.  I love scary movies!
11.  I wear flip flops for eight months of the year.  Love New Zealand weather.

 


My Nominations

I hereby continue the Liebster Award tradition and pass the award onto the following new bloggers.  Congratulations to;

  1. The googling mum
  2. Anxious Mummy
  3. I’m Not SuperMum
  4. Scatterbrained Mum
  5. Squirmy Popple

 

My questions for you lovely ladies are;

1.  What is your happiest memory?
2.  What are you most proud of?  (Except your children)
3.  What one person (alive or dead) would you invite around for dinner and why?
4.  If you won the lottery, how would you spend the money?
5.  What is your favourite meal, including drink and dessert?
6.  Do you have any hidden talents?
7.  If you could have a superpower, what would it be and why?
8.  What inspired you to start blogging?
9.  Describe yourself in 3 words.
10.  If you were to be reincarnated as an animal, what animal would you be and why?
11.  If you could only read one book for the rest of your life, which book would it be?

 


The Liebster Award Rules

  • Thank the person who nominated you and post a link to their blog in your post.
  • Show the award on your blog or in your post.
  • Answer the 11 questions asked by the person who nominated you.
  • Write 11 random facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 5-11 bloggers that you feel deserve the award.
  • Create a list of new questions for your nominees to answer.

Once your blog is published, let your nominees know that they have been nominated and link them to your post for more details.

 


 

My Final Words

Thank you again to the Paranoid Working Parent for voting for me.  You truly made my week!

A post of hers that I really enjoyed reading was the very honest ‘When breast isn’t best – an honest tale‘.  As a breastfeeder I am passionate for other women to do the same as much as they can.  This is another sad tale of yet another mum being let down and unsupported by the system that is supposed to help, encourage and support.  Thank you for sharing.

Poo, poo and more poo – part 2

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Just a couple of months ago I wrote my first post titled ‘Poo, Poo and More Poo!’  Now here I am writing ‘Poo, Poo and More Poo – part 2!’  Did I not learn my lesson the first time? Clearly not!

This time my toddler is 17 months old. After having a bit of an upset tummy earlier this week his bottom is pretty red. it looks very much like a baboons butt!  Poor guy.  So, being a good mum, I thought to help it heal as quick as possible I’ll let him have some nudey rudey time. (Defence 1.)  After all, he’d already done two poos today so I was fairly safe. (Defence 2.)

He was enjoying his bare bottomed freedom and wondered off to the bedroom for a couple of minutes.  As I’m sick today, (defence 3,) I probably didn’t check on him as quick as I normally would.  My little precious boy then came back into the lounge to show me that he’d gotten something on his leg.

“Oh no! No! No! Nooo!”

I quickly picked him up, dumped him in the bath and turned on the shower. Once he was clean and happily playing I then walked into my bedroom to face the consequences of my now regrettable decision and lack of supervision.   Bad parenting choices at it’s best!

There was spots of poo leading out of the door like a trail, leading me to the scene of the crime. I followed them gingerly with gritted teeth and the hope that as I looked around the bed the mess wouldn’t be too bad.

As I rounded the corner I was faced with poo, poo and more poo.  On the carpet in several little piles, on the duvet cover, on the curtain and on my hairdryer chord.  Nooooo!
This is not a good day!  First a bad cold, no ability to call in sick and now this.

So out comes the baby wipes, the disinfectant and finally the steam mop!
I wonder how many more poo-tastrophes I will have to clean up in my role as Mum.

This is the reality of motherhood!

 

Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday
A Bit Of Everything

What I’ve learnt about Linkys… so far.

Linkys...so far

I am a new blogger.  Just 4 months in.  Blogging has been a huge learning curve for me, as I’m sure it is for everyone.  One aspect of blogging that I am just getting my head around is Linkys.  When I first started blogging I’d never even heard of them!
So here’s what I’ve learned about Linkys so far:

What is a Linky?
A Linky is a hosted webpage on the hosts blog-site, inviting like minded bloggers to link-up their posts.  It’s sort of like an advertising board for blog posts, but with a lovely sense of support and community.  Different Linkys have different themes.  It all depends on the host.

Why join in with Linkys?
Initially, I joined in with Linkys to increase my site stats.  And it worked.  I now have regular visitors to my site and many more comments than I was getting previously.  In fact, before I joined in with Linkys, I don’t think I had a single blog post comment! – Sad face.  
However, now I just love the community surrounding the Linkys.  I have Linkys that I try to join in with every week and I am now finding that I am getting to know other bloggers better and better.  I read their posts, they read mine and we comment and reply to one another.

What are the rules?
Linkys do have certain rules, but they are easy to stick to.
1.  You have to include the host’s badge on your blog post when you link up.
2.  You have to comment on the host’s post and usually one or two others.  (But it’s polite to comment on as many as you can.)
3.  When you comment remember to include the has- tagged title of the Linky.  (I always forget to do this.)  E.g #abitofeverything, #KCACOLS,

Managing your linkups.
Initially I found it hard to juggle my blogging workload and so when I joined in with Linkys I only commented on the minimum number of posts.  GASP!  (I know, I am slightly ashamed, but I was a newbie and just learning the ropes so I hope I am forgiven.)
Now that I have my sh** together. (Apology for the expletive.)  I am reading and commenting on many more posts.  My trick is that when I join the Linky I add the page to my reading list on my web-browser.  Then, when I’m having a cup of tea, sitting on the toilet, lying in bed etc…  I can quickly choose, read and comment on a blog post.  Easy!  It also makes reading the posts so much more enjoyable.

Sense of Community
Linkys are a community hub.  They are a a place for like-minded bloggers to meet up on a regular basis to share their posts.  The more you join in as a regular guest, the more you get to know the host/s and the other regular guests.  You begin to build relationships.  You begin to have your favourite bloggers and hopefully in time, I’m sure I will start to have my regular readers too.
For me, I have found that reading so many more posts written by other bloggers, I am starting to feel inspired to write more posts of my own.  I also feel supported.  The comments I get on my posts are always so lovely and so positive.  There really is a sense of love being shared by all the comments.

Finally, a Thank You.
There have been a few moments when I have considered dropping this blogging malarky altogether.  But my Linky community has pulled me back.  So a special thank you to my regular Linky hosts Agent Spitback, Anxious Dragon and A Moment With Franca.  Hosting is clearly hard work and you ladies do an awesome job.  Thank you.

Am I Pregnant Yet?

Am I pregnant yet? titleI am very lucky to have a happy and healthy son.  And I am doubly lucky that he was conceived relatively quickly.  We got pregnant on our first attempt but this ended in an early miscarriage.  We then tried again, and he was the result.  Go us!!!

So when it came to trying for baby number two, I honestly though we would be just as lucky.  So far, that’s not the case.

We’re five months into trying.  Five attempts to get pregnant.  So far we have had two early miscarriages and three failed attempts.

I’m not sure how I feel about it all.  It’s such a rollercoaster of emotions.  Here’s how the months go.

Week 1 – Hopeful.
It’s a new start.  A new chance.  This could be the one!  Come on fertile days!

Week 2 – Excited, Nervous.
We hop on the good foot and do the bad thing.  That’s always fun!
I try not to obsess too much about my ovulation date.  Don’t want to pressure the Hubster.
My thoughts often drift around… Is this it?  Has a little swimmer reached an egg?  Did it get in?  Are the cells diving?  Come on baby!

Week 3 – Calm, sort of.
What’s done is done.  We’ve either pregnant or we’re not.  I’m no longer fertile and I can’t find out yet.  Besides, stressing about it isn’t going to help.  I try to forget about it and keep my mind busy.

Week 4 – Nervous, Anxious, Impatient, Scared.
I usually wait until three days before my period is due to do a test.  But the days leading up to this are filled with nerves.  I want to know, am I pregnant yet?  But I’m also scared to know the truth.  Am I?  Aren’t I?  What’s going on?

Test Day – This ends in two ways.

1. A negative result leads to disappointment, sadness and worry.
Why aren’t I pregnant this time?  Was it because I was too tired that night?  Is something wrong?  Are my eggs getting old?  Was it because my toddler jumped on my tummy?  The thoughts are endless.

2. A positive results leads to excitement but also fear.
Yay!  We made an embryo! This could be it.  We could be holding a baby in 8 months.  I usually work out the due date and start imaging our family of four.  Girl or boy?  So exciting!
But then I remember, I’ve had three miscarriages before.  Two whilst trying for this baby.  It could end in a miscarriage again.  Then I wait with a mixture of hope, and the fear of what could happen.  I overthink every twinge and every bump.  I worry if I pick up a bag of heavy groceries.  I worry if I get kicked by my toddler.  I wish I had a crystal ball to tell me if I was safe to relax or if I needed to prepare myself for another loss.

So here we go.  Month number six.  Is this the month for our family?  Only time will tell.

 

My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows

Help! Have I Made A Rod For My Own Back?

Have I made a rod for my own back?

Have I made a rod for my own back?

My son is 17 months old and still wakes up pretty much every two hours… every night!  He will occasionally sleep for three hours and on an exceptionally good night will sleep for four hours, but these night are very rare.

He has a two hour nap everyday and goes to sleep at nap time and at bedtime very easily.  So for these things I can’t complain.

To get my son to sleep I breastfeed him and cuddle him on a rocking chair.  Once asleep I put him into his cot, which is in his own room and await to be summoned to resettle him.  Have I made a rod for my own back by doing this?

When he wakes he usually only wants to breastfeed, so my husband usually gets screamed at and pushed away.  But, sometimes he just wants a cuddle and so will happily be settled by either of us.

Since my son was born he has wanted to be held.  Every time he was put down as a newborn he cried until he was picked up and cuddled.  This is normal though. right?  Babies just want to be nurtured.   So I cuddled.  And I loved every minute.

As he’s gotten older, we have tried to leave him to chill out in his cot.  We’ve left him by himself, we’ve been there to rub his back and tap his bum, we’ve even tried putting him down… dare I say it… drowsy but awake!  (I hate that phrase!)  We’ve tried picking him up and cuddling him until he’s settled and then putting him back into his cot.  We’ve tried later bedtimes, earlier bedtimes.  We’ve tried filling him up on food before bed.  We’ve tried many more things.  Nothing has worked!

My son always cries and stands up in his cot.  I hate the fight involved in sleep training, it never feels natural to me.  I get stressed and my son gets stressed and we both end up in tears. This is not the way I want to parent.

My last effort has been over the last three months.  For three months I have been totally consistent.  We have the exact same bedtime routine and my son has not been allowed into our bed to sleep at all.  I have gone in to settle him, given him a cuddle and a feed if he wants it.  I have put him down soon after he’s fallen asleep.  And repeated this again and again for three months.  He still wakes every two hours!

I am currently feeling lost, helpless and totally clueless.  Have a made a rod for my own back?  Or have I just done what every nurturing mother would do?  When will my son sleep for more than two hours at a time?  How can I teach him to settle himself without any stressful tears from either of us?

Parenting is bloody hard!

 

Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday
A Bit Of Everything

Dear New Mum

Dear New Mum

I feel inspired to write this post for my Best Friend, Jane, who has just had her first baby and is now a New Mum.

I am so excited for Jane.  I remember all the good things about having a new baby and what a truly special time it is.  In my mind I’m remembering all of those cuddles with my son asleep on my chest.  I remember how small he was and all the funny facial expressions he pulled.  Those made me giggle.  I remember wearing him in my baby wrap whenever we went anywhere.  Him sleeping snuggled up next to me at night because he didn’t like sleeping alone.  I remember my first feelings of pure instinctual Mother’s Love.  A love so strong that words barely scratch the surface of how deep that love goes.  I remember all of these things and more.  What a wonderful time it was!!!

But as the days pass since the birth of Jane’s baby, she shares her worries with me and I am reminded of what a stressful time it was.  I remember that establishing breastfeeding was really hard and really painful.  I remember the fear every time I fell asleep with my son on me or next to me.  Would I wake to find him not breathing?!  I remember him crying and me not knowing why or being able to make him stop. I remember the baby blues and how I cried all day every day for days and days.  I remember feeling totally overwhelmed.  Feeling like a failure because I had to give my son a bottle of formula because breastfeeding was too painful.  I remember constantly worrying about how many layers he had on and whether he was too hot or too cold.  I remember doubting myself and my abilities as a New Mum.  I remember the utter confusion of being given so many different bits of advice that I never knew what the right thing to do was.  I remember!

Dear New Mum,
Being a New Mum is wonderful.  And it is such a precious time.  But even more so, it’s bloody tough!  Not only are you exhausted from the birth and the sleepless nights, but you also have hormones to contend with.  Then there’s the baby to care for, which is the biggest learning curve you will ever experience.  Plus all of the midwives, health visitors, family and friends that all descend on you with their well wishes and ‘helpful’ (ha!) advice.

Dear New Mum,
Chances are you’re doing an amazing job.  Yes, you’re tired.  You probably haven’t showered or gotten dressed properly for days.  That’s ok.  Your house will be a mess, you won’t have cooked or even thought up an idea of what to have for dinner.  All of that is ok too.  I’m sure you have co-slept and feeding isn’t going the way you thought.  It’s completely normal.  Every other new mum is having a tough time.  You are not alone!

Dear New Mum,
Please don’t give yourself a hard time about anything.  Right now, you have jumped into the deepest end of the hardest job you will ever have to adjust to.  Whatever you choose to do, however you choose to do it, it will be the right choice for you and your baby.

Dear New Mum,
Take care of yourself.  Lots of love. xoxo

New Baby 1

 

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My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows
My Random Musings

Book Review – Oi Frog!

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Oi Frog! is a children’s picture book, written by the award winning, Kes Gray, and illustrated by Jim Field.  I highly recommend this book and give it five stars!  Five stars

I first came across this book in my local library. My son and I visit the library every month and borrow up to twenty books each time for my husband and son to share at bedtime.  Rarely do I bring home a book that was as big a success as this one!  So much so, that we bought our very own copy.  Even now, months later, it is still a popular choice and is read at least twice a week.

Oi frog! has two main characters, Frog and Cat.

Frog is an inquisitive creature looking for somewhere to sit and relax.

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Cat is very matter of fact.  An informative character who is trying to teach Frog that he and other animals have very specific places that they should sit.

The author successfully uses rhyming words throughout this book to match animals to the places that they should sit.  After all it is the ‘right thing’ to do!  These rhymes create bizarre matches resulting in a story that is simple and yet fantastically funny to read.

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The illustrator, Jim Field, then amplifies the effect with his bold and colourful pictures.  Together the outcome is fabulous.  Adults and children will enjoy this book.  It is certainly one of my son’s and husband’s favourites.  It is safe to say that this book is suitable for ages 1 and up.

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And as all good books have a great ending, so does this one.  As you turn the last page, both adults and children will be giggling away, as they read that last word!

My husband reads this book with amazing character voices.  He really brings these characters to life. Even through the baby monitor.  He never fails to make me smile as I listen in to story time. His version of Frog is a camp ‘David Walliams’ type character and his Cat is bossy and slightly impatient, with a Cockney London accent.  Hilarious!

I highly recommend this book, completely off my own back.  As a Teacher and a Parent, I love a truly rich reading experience and believe that when found, they should be shared by all.

Happy reading!

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Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday

Am I good enough at feeding my child?

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As a newish mum, I’m constantly thinking about what food I should feed my 16 month old son.  I’m always worried that he doesn’t eat enough fruit or veg.  That he’s eaten the same meal two days in a row.  That all he has eaten for four days is carbs, despite me putting a range of veg and meat on his plate.  I’m worried that my meal ideas aren’t creative enough, that I’m giving him too much processed food.  He loves tinned spaghetti!  I’m worried… Am I good enough at feeding my child?

I’ve recently gotten in contact with a Great Aunt of mine and she’s been telling me stories of her childhood.  One such story was about what she had to eat as a child and it has totally given me some perspective about whether I am good enough at feeding my child.  In short the answer is… Yes I am!

Born in 1938, my Great Aunt was a child in the UK during World War II.  She told me how ‘The war years made the poor classes even poorer’.  How most people lived ‘on the breadline or near to poverty’.  She tells me how for breakfast her and her family would eat ‘bread broken into a dish with hot milk poured over the top’  On good days they could add a sprinkle of sugar.  On bad days when there was no milk they would use tea.  For lunch and dinners she told me how her mum would ‘often smash potatoes with a little margarine’ and use it as spread for sandwiches.  On good days, as a treat, they could add a little cheese or an oxo cube.   She told me that her family were lucky as they never went hungry and that often neighbour’s children would knock the door asking for food because they hadn’t eaten anything that day.

In todays age, we are totally bombarded with pressure to give our children the right diet, yet marketers are excellent at pushing fast food restaurants and processed foods under our noses.  We are told that fat is bad, and sugar is bad, and anything not organic is bad.  We have an infinite amount of recipes available to us and masses of food choices in our local supermarkets.   It can all be overwhelming!  All of this, plus the many more food pressures we experience on a day to day basis makes us feel like we’re all doing a really bad job at feeding our kids.

But going back to my Great Aunts childhood, in comparison, we’re doing an amazing job!  Our kids get cereals, breads, fruits, veggies, meats, pasta, rice and a few little treats.  Their diets are varied.  Maybe they don’t eat the 5 portions of fruit and veg that we’re told that they must eat.  I’m sure it’s not because it isn’t offered. But they’re growing well.  They are never hungry.  And because of what we offer our kids, they will grow up to be healthy and strong.  Maybe we’re not text book perfect in what we offer our kids.  So what?!  Relax.  We’re doing great!

Am I good enough at feeding my child

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